Easy ways to be happy with yourself!
"Happiness is a gift and the trick is not to expect it, but to delight in it when it comes."
- Charles Dickens
Don't be surprised when I tell you that there are easy ways to be happy with yourself! Till now being happy was not a piece of cake.
But what if I promise you that you can make yourself happy in any circumstances.
However, there is a word of alert for you. If you are expecting a quick fix to your life, then this blog is not for you. You do not have control over the people around you. But, you do have control over yourself.
My fix will work if you are ready to implement it every day, every time, just like any other habit.
Achieving happiness will become a piece of cake for you once you start practicing these easy ways to be happy with yourself. You need to practice it every day, just like any other habit.
What are the easy ways to be happy with yourself?
1. Being proactive and not reactive.
Why do you act as if you have no control over yourself?
Being proactive is asking,
"What do I do next?"
Being reactive is asking,
"I hate my life. Why me?"
The moment you stop victimizing yourself and start creating solutions to the existing problems, you win! Remember what Albert Einstein said?
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
You are the king of your life. Bring about a change in your dogma. Change your belief system from,
"Terrible things happen to me."
to
"Terrible things happen to me."
Every experience indicates something. Every experience teaches you some lessons. Grab that lesson of life, and stop that terrible experience from repeating again.
You start taking drugs. You stoop to vulgarity. You start doing things that do not resonate with your character. This is called a reaction to the circumstances that take hold of you. This is not being proactive.
You are an opportunist. There is always an opportunity concealed during bad times. You only need to clear your mind and become proactive rather than being reactive.
However, I do not mean to say not to brood over the loss of someone you love. Losing someone inflicts excruciating pain which becomes unbearable at times. Being proactive here requires a lot of courage.
Remember that you are a warrior. Very soon, you will rise to become a leader. Check out the next point to get deep into what I mean to say.
2. Find out what you are most passionate about.
"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why."
- Mark Twain
The third most important day of your life is the last day of your life.
What do you want to leave behind?
How do you want people to remember you?
Do you want to be one of the meaningless dust speckles?
Take your time to answer these questions. Let your birth and death be known.
You will achieve happiness when you strive towards your ultimate goal. Whenever you are in a terrible circumstance, broken inside-out, you can always fall back on what you are most passionate about.
If you love singing, sing as much as you can when you feel broken. If you love painting, paint as much as you can when you feel depressed. If you love writing, pour out words as much as you can.
This is how you start living your life. People create a masterpiece when they are hurt.
Energy is neither created nor destroyed. When you are hurt, you store a tremendous amount of energy inside you, waiting to be unleashed. When you are in love, the same thing happens. The only difference lies in where you are directing the energy.
When you are in love, you do impossible things for someone you love. When you are hurt, you create a masterpiece for not one person but for the whole world to admire. Unfortunately, we fail to direct our energy in the right direction during tumultuous times.
Find what you are passionate about. Direct all your built-up energy to create a masterpiece. The process of creating a masterpiece will become the real cause of happiness.
3. Use social media wisely.
Are you aimlessly scrolling Facebook or Instagram?
Are you feeling jealous of the so-called amazing lives of your peers on Instagram?
I was also fooled once, not twice. The flashy pictures of my friends with a big shining trophy or posts of smiling faces with a backdrop of Havana beach no more fascinate me. I am out of such a doomed social circle.
The circle of your thought circumscribes the thought of the society in general. Society dictates the criteria for defining life as entertaining and meaningful. Like morons, we agree. This is the age of millennials!
You will be labeled as a crazy individual just because you are different. The damned society will not like you. You are not a pleaser. You ought to make your own rules and principles to live by.
This is not to say that you abide by your own principles that are morally harming. Design principles that work the best for you without being unethical.
You compare your life with someone whom you don't even know! The social media algorithm wants users to stick to its platform. It promotes posts that play with your attention and time.
If someone has climbed Mount Everest by the age of 20, it surely doesn't mean you are garbage. You do understand what I mean!
You have different skills. You cannot be another Edison or Garyvee.
You can be your ultimate self.
Oh yes, speaking of skills, I have a list of soft skills you need for success. Why not give it a read!
4. You have a lot more than what you don't have!
Your tongue will always stick to the missing tooth. If you see a tiny black dot on a piece of white paper, the paper seems no more white!
When you are unhappy about something, ask yourself only one question,
"What do I have?"
The reason to be happy is, you have things that others may not possess. Ask an orphan about what he does not possess. Ask a cancer patient about what he does not have. You still have days to live!
You are reading my happiness fix because you have eyes! A blind person will not even know what I am talking about.
You possess so many things that you have never thought of before. We are born and brought up with a mentality that we lack something.
I do not mean to say that you should live a satisfying life. There will be no reason to push forward if you accept everything in life.
What I am saying is to stop feeling that you always lack something. Stop reiterating phrases like,
"If only....then only."
"If only I have a good IQ, then only I can crack the exam."
"If only I have a beautiful life, then only I would call myself lucky."
There are countless phrases you repeat in a single day. The moment you stop looking at the holes on the ground and start working on the land you have, your life will become a happy mess.
These easy ways to be happy with yourself are simple and powerful if applied every day. The more you are in control of your life, the happier your life will be.
If you are going through depression, I would suggest you read how to overcome depression and anxiety.
Thank you for reading the blog. Its time to smile😊
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